Time

Time

"Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein."

-- H. Jackson Brown Jr.

"Someone once told me that 'time' is a predator that stalks us all our lives. But I rather believe that time is a companion who goes with us on the journey and reminds us to cherish every moment because it will never come again."

-- Jean-Luc Picard

Time. Is it a task master or a friend? Is it a commodity that we watch slip through our fingers throughout our lives or is it a coin that we spend wisely each day, each minute, choosing carefully what we will spend it on - the trivialities of life or the best that life has to offer? Screen time or the classic writings of great thinkers? Television and movies or learning a new skill or language? Games and sport or education and learning? A romance novel or the life of the Savior and His teachings?

How will you spend the riches of time today?

Still a Rat

The problem is that you are still the Rat

"The problem with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat."

-- Lily Tomlin

This Rat Race is sometimes referred to as The Things of the World. It is as Elder Holland put it, putting the good things in live ahead of the vital things in life. And wen we do that, eventually we will realize that we settled for being a rat in stead of an eternal child of God who can become lime Him.

Judging - Making Decisions about others

Judging Successfully

There can be as much value in the blink of an eye as in months of rational analysis.


Truly successful decision making relies on a balance between deliberate and instinctive thinking.


We have, as human beings, a storytelling problem. We're a bit too quick to come up with explanations for things we don't really have an explanation for.


The great accomplishment of Jobs's life is how effectively he put his idiosyncrasies - his petulance, his narcissism, and his rudeness - in the service of perfection.


It would be interesting to find out what goes on in that moment when someone looks at you and comes to all sorts of conclusions.


-- Malcolm Gladwell


We all judge. It is part of our nature to protect ourselves so we judge people and everything else around us first, for their potential to do us harm. Snakes, spiders, scorpions, people with weapons, cars that might run over us and, for the more paranoid, spaceships that might scoop us up for testing. We also judge the people, animals and things around us for those that can do us good - a lost dollar on the ground, a cute girl or boy, a sign indicating a 50% reduction on price for something or a taxi cab on a lonely street in New York.

But sometimes those judgments lead us into making bad decisions. And at other times, those judgments that seem to make no sense are the perfect answer to our problem. Deliberate, analytical decisions are not always the best because we seldom have all of the facts. Or, perhaps I should rephrase that to say, all of the facts that we have were not obtained through our analysis but our brain is responding with further information which we may call instinct or inspiration.

So how do we judge appropriately? How do we make decisions about things in the best way possible? As suggested by one of the quotes above, there needs to be a balance in our lives for considering what we don't know and other sources where information can be obtained from, both our instincts and inspirations. Don't rely simply on the available facts but consider what else your mind is telling you. Sometimes we call it our gut feeling about something. Also, consider what spiritual information you may have, especially if you have sought for additional guidance from spiritual sources. Those, too, can be very powerful guides to making the best decisions, especially for one's personal life.

Mr. Gladwell tells the story of David and Goliath. From the perspective of the Monday morning quarterback there are many indicators that would tell us that this fight was not as one-sided as it seems. But remember that David did not have all of the information that Mr. Gladwell has. But he did have a different skill and the courage to use it in a way that went against the norms of the time and he probably had some guidance from inspiration, knowing what we do of his later life.

Malcom Gladwell's interesting account of David and Goliath is posted below.

Love What You Do

It is important to love what you do.

"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do."

-- Steve Jobs

Whatever you do, do it well. And, as Steve Jobs indicates, doing it well is much easier by choosing something that you love and that you are passionate about. But is also helps if either it pays well or if you are already well enough off to do your passion without income.

In support of that quote, I have another from Seth Godin an author and marketer who tells us that you need to be remarkable, not just ordinary to get people's attention so that they will spread your message. And those people are the people who are passionate about something.

"Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, you ought to set up a life you don’t need to escape from."

-- Seth Godin

Become passionate about the things you do in life. Make a difference in the lives of others. Don't just be the status quo.

Choices

Choices

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself, any direction you choose."

-- Dr. Seuss

Agency, our ability to choose, can never be taken away. Even in the worst of circumstances we get to choose - choose to cooperate, choose to rebel, choose to work or to play to get out of bed or to sleep in. Granted, our options are often limited. But those limitations are always imposed by ourselves. We are often motivated by consequences. For instance, if you don't get to work on time you will lose your job. But you still get to choose. You may choose to quit, chose to find a new job, choose to negotiate a later work time or choose to arrive on time. The choice of action is ours. The consequences, however, are not. Once we make the choice, the consequences (or rewards if the consequences are good) are still ours because of the choices we make in life. So, steer yourself well because you're in the chooser seat.

Happiness

Happiness

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us."

-- Helen Keller

Who better exemplified one who was continually finding the open doors in life and not remaining focused on the closed door or past opportunities.

We are creatures who often long after things that we think we have lost for so long that we forget that there is more to come. We spend our time, energy and resources to recover that which is lost rather than looking forward to that which is better, newer and more rewarding. When we do that, we lose twice - We lose what is gone and we lose what could have been a wonderful replacement.

I Get To Choose How I Will Be Today

"Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same."

-- Carlos Castaneda



Isn't that a wonderful thought? I can feel however I choose to feel. I am not bound by circumstances to feel sad because unpleasant things happen to me. Nor am I obliged to be happy, simply because it is a great day and I am well off. I am the captain of my soul, I am the master of my of my fate, as the poet wrote.

I find it fascinating how much we get to decide in this life. Even when life is miserable we can have peace and enjoyment just as soon as we decide that it is how we are going to be. Take the weather, for example. I listen to people complain about the weather in Arizona all the time. Even when it is nice outside there is someone who insists that the weather is lousy. But amazingly, when we decide that the weather is going to be great, whatever the temperature. Suddenly it is better and with practice, it is great whatever the temperature.

In my work place it was always chilly. Even when I wore long sleeved shirts and a sweater I was still cold.Then one day I decided that the temperature was not going to decide whether I was cod or not. I decided to enjoy the cold. SURPRISE! Although it took about a year, I now love the temperature there and I often wear short sleeve shirts and I never wear a sweater.

You can learn to make those choices, too. When unpleasant things happen, learn to enjoy the experience. The worst meal I ever had in a restaurant is the one that we laugh the most about. The scrambled eggs had shells in every bite and the hot chocolate was so think that even a couple of ice cubes couldn't make it better. That guy must have really been having a bad day. But not me! Now when I get food that isn't the best, I can always claim that I've had worse.

Quote of the Day - Our Relationship to God

With our memories of our existence hidden from us while here in mortality we can scarcely imagine what awaits us when we return to His presence. I often consider how I will feel if I have not been very good at becoming like Him through following the guidance that he has given us so that we can have the great reward at the end. After we discover the close, close relationship that we had with Him before this life, if we have not been attentive followers of the Son, I can not even imagine who awful we will feel for disappointing Him so grievously. How ashamed we will feel among the great and noble ones of heaven and earth, among those who sacrificed much to be obedient to the Savior.

With that in mind, this quote from Brigham Young gives new perspective to this relationship.

"When you see our Father, you will see a being with whom you have long been acquainted, and He will receive you into His arms, and you will be ready to fall into His embrace and kiss Him."

How this image makes me want to be better at following what He has asked us to do so that I may become what He is and feel comfortable in the presence of God.

Quote of the Day - Meekness

The comments below come from Elder David A. Bednar in the April 2018 General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. This is the best definition of Meekness that I have ever heard and has inspired me to strive to become a meek person.

Meekness is a defining attribute of the Redeemer and is distinguished by righteous responsiveness, willing submissiveness and strong self-restraint.

The Christlike quality of meekness often is misunderstood in our contemporary world. Meekness is strong, not weak; active, not passive: courageous, not timid; restrained, not excessive; modest, not self-aggrandizing; and gracious, not brash. A meek person is not easily provoked, pretentious, or overbearing and readily acknowledges the accomplishments of others.

Whereas humility generally denotes dependence upon God and the constant need for His guidance and support, a distinguishing characteristic of meekness is a particular spiritual receptivity to learn both from the Holy Ghost and from people who may seem less capable, experienced, or educated, who may not hold important positions, or who otherwise may not appear to have much to contribute. Recall how Naman, captain of the king's army in Syria, overcame his pride and meekly accepted the advice of his servants to obey Elisha the prophet and wash in the River Jordan seven times. Meekness is the principal protection from the prideful blindness that often arises from the prominence, position, power, wealth, and adulation.

Meekness is an attribute developed through desire, the righteous exercise of moral agency, and striving always to retain a remission of our sins. It is also a spiritual gift for which we appropriately can seek. We should remember, however, the purposes for which such a blessing is given, even to benefit and serve the children of God.

As we come unto and follow the Savior, we increasingly and incrementally are enabled to become more like Him. We are empowered by the Spirit with disciplined self-restraint and a settled and calm demeanor. Thus, meek is what we become as disciples of the Master and not just something we do.